In order to get the results that I'm not getting, I need to do the thing that I'm not doing.
There’s this quote that haunts me at times “The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that successful people do what unsuccessful people won’t do”.
There’s often lots of excuses, blame, judgement, victim mindset that goes along with not getting what we say we really want. Sometimes lots of complaining too.
Menopause has given me a new body. A very unfamiliar, at times unwanted figure that reflects back at me in the mirror. It’s not pretty, it feels awkward and foreign. I can’t seem to find the energy that I need. It doesn’t seem to matter how many veggies I eat or miles I run (currently at 20 miles a week), it just doesn’t seem to be making a difference.
Excuses, judgement, blame, victimhood. Do you hear it? I sure do! Loud and clear.
Some of you compassionate folks out there are shouting “Dawn it’s ok, menopause is a monster. It steals our youth! It invades not only our bodies but our minds too!
It’s good to know that I’m not alone.❤️
Yes, there is lots to celebrate at this new chapter in my life. I could read you a list of all the blessings, joys and beauty that I experience in my every day.
But one thing is very clear, there is still a lot of excuses, judgement, blame, and victimhood going on:
Excuses: “what difference will one more cookie make menopause has taken over my life” (as if that 2nd or 3rd cookie has no calories!)
Judgement: “are you really doing enough, can’t you push just a little bit harder”
Blame: “my work schedule’s too crazy, I can’t eat meals the way my body needs it best. It’s not my fault”
Victimhood: “it’s in your genes, it’s not your fault it's your genes. That bowl of ice cream, you deserve it”
Sound familiar? How much time do you spend beating yourself up instead of just doing the thing that will get you the results that you want?
If I look closer at the image in the mirror, maybe not focus so much on the belly or soft spots, but to look straight into my eyes - deep into my soul, with a little bit more love, a little bit more understanding - then maybe, just maybe with a more open heart, I will feel more loved, more cared for, more valued, and will have the love and compassion to do the thing that will get me the results that I desire.
“My life is in my hands, I decide how to think, feel and be right now”
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